they are pushing for DB to come home, they say there is nothing more they can do. Want to set up an evening call to get him into bed and provide a wheeled comode to transfer him from bed to chair. If I have to go out I need to have someone to sit with him. He is going to love that - not. The only alternative is to get him into a home.......sorry no way is that happening. I cannot think of a quicker way of him giving up the ghost!!
So despite my concerns and condition, I am not counted in the equation......its a case of put up and shut up. One thing is certain, I need to concentrate on selling/gifting the stuff in the house ASAP!! I can then apply to the council and see if we can get a flat, no hopes of another bungalow, in the town. I know there is a long waiting list. Whether we would be considered as requireing urgent care I just do not know. One thing is certain, what ever happens re DB I cannot stay on here, just cannot afford the rent, even with housing benefit and council tax benefit. I will also not get pension credit, my pensions give me a bigger income that the basic.
How dare they push for DB to come home with the problems he has not yet fixed? What inexcusable stress they are putting on you. For shame!
ReplyDeleteHope under the unwelcome circumstances, you and DB can go to the top of the list for a flat if that would make life easier for you. I know you two would miss the lovely garden you've made with Trevor's help but hope there would be a park near the flat so the view of that would help. Wishing you and DB good news about his coming home or a flat for you two.
Today when I went next door to take R4 his laundry, there was a long black snake about 2" around lying across the width of his porch blocking the front door. YIKES! I backed off very quickly and the snake moved off the porch and into the shrubs. Like that old song said, "I don't like spiders or snakes!" and I don't. Shudder. How creepy.
Big hugs!
You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. It sounds like your husband is in a transition unit. He either goes home or into care. It sounds like they are doing their best to meet his needs and your requests.
ReplyDeleteMy MIL remained at home until she was 96 with a lot of support. She refused to consider entering a home but in all honesty, she would have been better there. Social interaction with her peers would have been a blessing as she was isolated with only the TV or radio for company when her adult children and grandchildren were working.
Not all homes are hell holes. We looked at some nice ones that she wouldn't even consider.
Excuse me for asking, but have you got Power of Attorney? It is so important.
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